Let's see, if I do the math correctly, we have been married 22 years. (whew!)
Ok, I'm kinda typical in that I don't have that sort of information handy. Truth is, I don't really think of it very much. Which I think is a good thing. I figure those guys that count the days are sort of like like prisoners: "oh boy, only 2 more years till my parole".
As I was saying, my wife is terrific. She thinks I'm overstating things when I say that she is perfect for me. But, truly, I've watched other couples and I've noticed that there are no other wives like mine.
We really have a terrific relationship. Many couples don't argue (as we don't - leastwise very much) but that doesn't mean we don't disagree at times.
Lynda is not frivolous. She thinks about her opinions and won't express them unless she can back them up. From the day I considered her my friend, what attracted me most about her is her reasonableness. She is extremely reasonable.
Oh, and she's smart. Not only does she think about things but she can comprehend complex systems. She was a programmer after all. Now she's the Children's Ministry Secretary at PBCC and often sought after for computer questions.
Another thing is she's patient (well, anyone who knows me knows that she'd have to be!)
She would never cop to it but she's very artistic. She has a great eye for color and she uses that in tons of different ways. She's a practical artist; not a minimalist but also not into frooffy things laying around cluttering the place. She likes things clean and tiddy but not so concerned about it that it prevents her from having fun or the kind that makes people uneasy. So, the house is comfortably clean. (Yea, I like that. I'm hearing the Pink Floyd song Comfortably Numb. "Myyyyyy House, is Comfortably Clean..." Ok, maybe not) Anyway, she's always humming or whistling while she busily goes about doing things; loves to sing harmony and plays the piano. She doesn't like to sit idly but does love a good movie now and again or chatting with friends over a glass of wine. She enjoys cooking and has been known to go "off book" now and again to adjust the recipe to either make it better or just because that's what we have on hand.
She's into projects so there is a project in-progress everywhere you go. Every flat space is decorated with the fruits of her imagination. She gets frustrated with not completing them all but then, focusing on completing everything would be pedantic and stifle the imagination.
She's taken an interest in the things that interest me. So, we have a really nice home theater and she has taken an active part in picking out the various components and comments on what she likes or doesn't like about the system.
What is truly amazing to me is that she still likes being around me. She asks me to go to the store with her. Not because she needs the muscle and not because she doesn't like to be alone. But I think she enjoys my company. Sometimes we have conversations that sound like they were scripted for Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan and other times we just explore the world in our conversations regarding the nature of God, politics or what is going on with our boys and how can we be best be supporting them.
I think it's cute when she wants to tell me about her frustrations with PHP programming regarding the improvements she has been spearheading in her job. It's cool that we can both appreciate each other's jobs.
We just had a full weekend with various activities with other couples and family. At various times we would be apart but we would always find each other and either sit together or even walk off alone to enjoy one another. How fantastic is that? After (what did I say it was? 22+ years!)
The best blessing our Lord can give to our boys is that they would find someone they could share their life with the way He has blessed me with Lynda.
Happy Valentines day sweetheart. I love you.
RayB
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